Thirty days after Sheryl Sandberg lost a deeply beloved husband, she wrote the following : When people say to me, “You and your children will find happiness again,” my heart tells me, Yes, I believe that, but I know I will never feel pure joy again. Those who have said, “You will find a new normal, but it will never be as good,” comfort me more because they know and speak the truth.
Recently I was walking in the street and found myself crying. I’d spontaneously started thinking about my late wife, Elana, and the pain of her loss had made me cry. It was a simple, pure and very meaningful experience.
The last thing my wife said to me was to, ‘tell people that one day we will look at this crazy puzzle and laugh’. Well, I’m telling people. But I think she would want me to explain what she meant.
As the memory of my wife slowly fades, I want to write one last article on what I have learnt from her.
I want to talk about love – which really was her expertise.
God is intimately involved in all that happens in our lives. And if what happens is cancer, then not only does He know about it, He makes it happen.
By Elana Rosenblatt
About two years ago, we had an unplanned growth in our family — a large cancerous tumor. But the growth I want to talk about is how the cancer affected me emotionally and spiritually.
What do you do when you find out that your 27 year old wife has cancer?
Well, first you cry a lot.
My wife, who passed away some weeks ago, was someone who gave and gave and gave to all around her. She will be missed by many. I have spent the last 2 months firstly taking care of her full time and then mourning her. I would like to share with you some of the deep lessons I have learned during this period.
When my wife was diagnosed with cancer, something odd happened. Her anger at God went away.
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